You built everything except the capacity to experience it.
This is where that changes.
The essay that names the operating mode, the margin, and the cost of what was deferred. Most men who read it say the same thing: "How does he know that?" Enter your details below and we'll send it straight to your inbox.
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Something has shifted. Not visibly. Not dramatically. But the distance between you and the life you're actually living has become harder to ignore.
It sits at the dinner table. It listens to your child talk about their day and scans for the problem to solve rather than simply hearing them. It lies next to someone at two in the morning and runs diagnostics on the relationship. It converts every human interaction into something to be managed rather than something to be experienced.
"Not broken. Not absent. Deferred — under conditions that made deferral the only rational response."
Experience first. Framework after. Each session builds on the last. Real-life homework between sessions ensures the work crosses from the screen into your actual life.
Every man carries a narrative about who he is — assembled from conditioning, expectation, and the operating mode he built to survive. The work is not to destroy the story. It's to complete it. The New Story doesn't abandon the man you were. It finishes him.
"I'm fine" isn't a feeling. It's a shut-down sequence. Containment words manage your interior. Contact words — "I feel," "I need," "I'm afraid" — create the possibility of moving through what you're experiencing rather than managing it indefinitely.
Transformation that doesn't show up in relationships isn't transformation — it's theory. The programme tests this live, within the group, before sending you into your actual relationships. The real test is what happens at the dinner table.
Live video calls, midweek evenings, 7:00–9:30pm. Cameras on. Gallery view. Small enough that every man is seen. An accountability buddy assigned before Week 1. A WhatsApp group for connection between sessions. Homework that sends you into your actual relationships — not worksheets that gather dust.
The work between sessions is the work.
Creator of the operating mode framework and the Margin Call metaphor. Richard works with accomplished men who have built externally successful lives and are experiencing a growing disconnection between what they've achieved and what they can actually feel.
He delivers the core conceptual teaching, facilitates the deepest group work, and holds the primary emotional container. His credibility comes from having done his own work and from having sat with hundreds of men in the exact place you're standing now.
Over 30 years in high-performance environments. Certified transformational coach with a foundation in psychodynamic psychotherapy and counselling. Tim brings the operational and systemic lens — he understands how the operating mode runs not just your personal life but your leadership, your team dynamics, and the culture you create around you.
He leads the somatic and grounding work, manages the accountability structures, and ensures the transformation survives contact with the real world.
One holds the man in the centre. The other reads the room. One delivers the teaching. The other watches for who's checked out, who's activated, who needs something that hasn't been said. The quality of attention doubles. And it models something these men rarely see: two men working together with complementary strengths, each trusting the other to hold his part.
6 weeks of structured group work. The foundation. The vocabulary, the self-awareness, the relational capacity.
Personalised, deeper work with Richard. Your specific material — your marriage, your children, your career inflection point — with the same directness and rigour, tailored to your life.
Three days in woodland near Salisbury. A man who has completed The Margin arrives with the vocabulary and capacity to go deeper faster. The Retreat becomes the advanced experience, not the introduction.
Monthly calls. Ongoing accountability. A growing body of men who have done the work and carry it forward.
One evening a week for six weeks. 150 minutes. You have time for everything that's urgent. This is important. The operating mode will tell you that important can wait. It can't. That's why the margin thinned.
We shared that scepticism. What we've found is that Zoom creates a different kind of intimacy. When a man speaks honestly on camera, his face fills every screen in the room. The proximity is extraordinary. And it happens from your home, in your actual life, which means the work crosses from the screen into your relationships in real time.
No. Therapy typically works with individual pathology over extended timeframes. The Margin works with a structural developmental gap — specific capacities that were deferred, not damaged — over a focused six weeks, in the company of other men facing the same gap. Both have value. They serve different purposes.
You won't be asked to perform emotion. You'll be asked to tell the truth. What happens after that is yours. Some men access deep emotion. Others access deep clarity. Both are legitimate. The programme meets you where you are, not where it thinks you should be.
Non-negotiable. What is shared in the group stays in the group. Sessions are never recorded. No digital footprint. Every man agrees to this before the programme begins. The men in this room are professionals with the same concerns you have.
If it didn't work, the programme probably started from the assumption that something is wrong with you. The Margin starts from the opposite: you built what your environment demanded, brilliantly. But the building was incomplete. That's a different starting point, and it leads to a different kind of work.
Some partners will be relieved. Some will be suspicious. Some will be afraid of what changes. All of those responses are addressed in the programme. Week 5 explicitly prepares you for what happens when the people around you resist the new version of you. This is not a reason to hold back. It's a reason to go in with your eyes open.
The men who complete this programme don't become less capable. They become more complete. The strength doesn't go anywhere. What arrives alongside it — presence, emotional range, relational capacity — makes the strength more effective, not less. The New Story doesn't replace the old one. It finishes it.
But it requires beginning.
Application is brief. No obligation. Richard reviews every one personally.